Hi, I'm Nic.
The person behind The Groundwork.
HCPC-registered Clinical Psychologist with 12+ years' experience across the NHS and private practice. I work with men, mostly fathers and professionals in their 30s to 50s, who are getting through the week but feeling the strain of it. While my background is in clinical psychology, this work is not therapy. It's a structured, psychoeducational programme.
A structured place to do the actual work.
Men who look fine on the outside, and know quietly that something needs to shift. That's most of who I work with.
The Groundwork is where I bring that clinical work into a structured group programme for fathers. The programme draws on evidence-based approaches used in clinical practice, including CBT, ACT and Compassion-Focused Therapy, adapted for men with full lives rather than empty evenings.
Alongside it, I run an individual therapy practice for men who need tailored, one-to-one support. Different work, same conviction: men deserve a space where they don't have to perform.
Professional Registrations
HCPC-Registered Practitioner Psychologist (Clinical) · PYL30931
Chartered Psychologist, British Psychological Society · 378436
BABCP Accredited Cognitive Behavioural Psychotherapist · 150487
If you're in crisis or need individual clinical support, the programme is not the right starting point for you. My individual therapy practice may be a better fit. Full eligibility details will be published alongside the programme when it opens.
What drives this work.
Four things it might be useful to know about how I got here, and why this is the work I keep choosing.
Men understand what's actually been driving the reactions, the shutdown, and the short fuse at home. And I give them practical tools to do something different with it.
Reaching men earlier. Before the separation, the stress leave, the moment something gives. Most of the men I see in clinic say the same thing: "I wish I'd done this five years ago."
The moment a man realises he's not broken, just overloaded. The moment a pattern he thought was just who he is turns out to be something he can actually work with.
I'm a husband and dad to two: an older daughter and a young son. Fatherhood has taught me things about the pressure men carry that 12 years of clinical training didn't fully prepare me for.
Men deserve a space where they don't have to perform. Whether that's one-to-one in my therapy practice, or structured work in a group of fathers going through the same thing. The point is the same.
Nic Nistor · Clinical Psychologist for MenWhat this work makes possible.
This isn't about becoming a different man. It's about understanding what's been getting in the way, so you actually have something to work with. Not just on the good days. Here's what we work on together.
Recognising what's happening before it comes out.
So you have half a second to choose what to do with it, instead of spending the evening regretting how you reacted.
Understanding where your patterns come from.
Not to excuse them. To understand them well enough to do something different with them.
Staying present when it counts.
With your kids. With your partner. In the evenings that used to feel like damage control.
Building a way of working that lasts.
Not willpower, not white-knuckling. Something that becomes second nature over time.
Some things that keep me steady.
These aren't fun facts for the sake of it. They're part of how I understand the men I work with. Small, steady, practical. Not magical fixes.
One of the few things that asks for full attention and gives it back.
- Family I'm a dad of two, and most weeks I'm doing the same juggle of work, school runs, tired evenings, and the occasional moment of snapping over something that didn't deserve it. This work isn't abstract for me.
- Outdoors Grounded by time outside. My allotment, gardening, long walks. The kind of thing that doesn't solve anything quickly but keeps me steady.
- Winter Skiing. One of the few things that asks for full attention and gives it back. Presence isn't something you think your way into. It's something you practise.
- At home DIY projects. Partly because I enjoy making things. Partly because a long afternoon fixing something reminds me that slow progress is still progress.
- Away Travel with my family. Time away from routine is where I notice what I've been carrying.
"The way I work with men is shaped by the same things that ground me in my own life. Not magical fixes. Slow, steady, practical."
Two ways to work with me.
They're different, and they're for different men at different moments. You don't need to decide based on this page alone. Take your time to consider what feels right, and if you're not sure which fits your situation, get in touch before committing to anything.
Emotional Navigation for Modern Fathers
An 8-week online programme for fathers who are getting through the week but struggling in the moments that matter most at home. Small group, structured, evidence-based. Psychoeducational. Not a substitute for clinical support.
Coming SoonIndividual Therapy
One-to-one clinical work through my therapy practice, NNPsychology. For men who need tailored, individual support rather than a group programme. In-person in Rochester, Kent, or online across the UK.
Visit NNPsychologyIf something here landed, that's your answer.
You don't need to have it figured out. If something on this page sounded like the inside of your head, that's enough to start.
If you are experiencing a mental health crisis or need urgent clinical support, please contact your GP or call Samaritans on 116 123 (free, 24/7). For individual therapy, visit nnpsychology.co.uk.